Why you still need to MAKE that Cake!
Unlike the title of the post, this post really is not about baking. Neither will it contain a recipe for a cake, far more than that, it contains a story that every person who has ever eaten, cooked or baked may relate to.
It has taken me at least a month to write this post. The reality is, however, while I may have has the seeds of this post implanted in all that time, the background story to this post really began five months ago, when we moved.
But oh, we did so much more than move. We got a new puppy, a new car and moved house to the city of our dreams all in the space of three weeks!
You might have thought that having all of these goals suddenly achieved in a short space of time, would or rather should have made me really happy. At least it really did feel like I SHOULD have been grateful and happy, yet the fact was that my calm, balanced self got lost somewhere between there and here.
It’s true that while many goals were resolved, not all of them were. So while my head was saying ‘you really should be grateful’, my heart felt underwater, like the strong pull of the under current that keeps dragging you down beneath the surface of the calm and peace. Away from my supposedly grateful state – in short I was unsettled – very unsettled.
And to add to that mix, the other really big thing on my mind was the diagonally opposite pull of all the things I had learnt and continued to read and dabble in.
The Paths of Positive Development
If you have had any interaction with the field of Positive Development, you may have noticed that there are two quite distinct paths in it – the spiritual and the non-spiritual.
On one hand the ‘set your goals and accomplish’ people – Napoleon Hill, Jack Canfield and on the other the spiritual minded like Esther (Abraham) Hicks, Marianne Williamson, Deepak Chopra who talk about allowing and letting go and trusting.
Perhaps in many ways, each have their own messages and therefore ‘call out’ to like-minded, similarly natured people, and here was where I felt quite stuck between the two. Much of the time I have spent accomplishing or trying to accomplish has been very clearly defined, well out-lined, well thought-out goals, and yet, achievements have also come as easily and as quickly when I use a more spiritual approach, for want of a better term, the Law of Attraction approach.
Reconciling the two was as challenging as it was difficult.
On one hand, I saw some logic in learning to let go and learning to trust, on the other hand, it felt too much like inaction to me, and that just wasn’t ‘me’. While internally my head kept repeating the message, telling me, I needed to let go and trust, the whole of my being seemed to be in constant battle with the ability to actually ‘let go’.
And so this internal struggle went on, for weeks and weeks, eventually turning in to months. And if anyone asked, my advice was always a standard ‘let go and trust’. And while i knew what that meant, I could not reconcile it within. My voice spoke the words and yet it was not with much conviction. I could make all the logical statements, provide the necessary examples, but a big part of me found it extremely hard to ‘let go’.
And then, as they say you never know when enlightenment strikes( not that this was anywhere near enlightenment) but…
A realisation hit me, most bizarrely when I was baking a cake.
As I shoved the cake mix, in to the oven, I realised that this was it.
This was IT all.
We live through life with goal after goal much akin to baking this cake and that cake.
The thing is, we need to do all we can to ‘work’ towards that goal. Hence as we decide to bake the cake, we beat the butter and sugar, add in the flour eggs, milk etc. – all the necessary ingredients, in all the correct order to the best of our ability.
BUT once we pour the mix in to the cake tin and shove it in the oven, from that moment on, we need to, no HAVE TO let go and TRUST, that the cake will turn out as perfect as it possibly can.
And that was it. That was all I needed to help me Let go (there’s those words again) of the fact that I needed to be different to who I really was.
My big lesson really was that I just need to embrace it all, and be, and do my best, whatever my goal is, and when the time is right, and I’ve done all that i can, I then turn it over and let go.
So everything that I have learnt about ‘Allowing’ and the ‘Law of Attraction’ about being authentic and being happy, none says that your dreams and achievements come true simply by wishing.
As ideal and as wonderful as it would be to have wish after wish granted, I do very much believe we do need to take action (inspired action is especially exciting!), until there is nothing else that we can think of left to be done. That’s when we need to trust the oven to deliver our most wonderful goodies.
Go on then, go bake that cake now!
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November 14, 2013 @ 7:29 am
Li-ling – Where is the joke about icing !! Did I miss it 🙂 Good analogy to cake baking. That’s pretty much what life sounds like.
I too have gone back and forth between action and visualization, spirituality and the rest. And action is important but I feel like the internal/soul-related beliefs about ourselves, our ability to see the outcomes and the positive vibrations which underlie our action matter.
For the biggest test (exam) I’ve taken in my life, I used the visualization and loa techniques. It helped – I passed and realized this stuff works!
Until the batter goes into the oven, we have control.
Once it’s in, it’s all trust 🙂 And believing in a delicious, moist and yummy cake, will usually result in one.
I’m craving cake now!
November 18, 2013 @ 11:34 am
Hey Vishnu, I forgot to say, it’s really good to know that I’m not the only one who yo-yos between all the possible good and right paths. 🙂
November 16, 2013 @ 5:41 am
Hey Vishnu! Looking at the picture of cakes, does make you think about icing doesn’t it? 😀 And…there’s always icing.
I absolutely agree with you about the underlying ‘work’ that needs to be done, before even starting to make that cake. I’ve been thinking about exactly that, and have been working on another post – that perhaps should have prefaced this one.
Congratulations on passing that exam! Sounds like it was a major one.
November 17, 2013 @ 7:04 pm
Hi Li-ling – I understand completely what you’re saying, although I suspect as someone not very linear it was easier for me. I think we gather information of all kinds and sift through it, like your cake analogy sifting the flour perhaps. We keep what resonates, we distill some more. The cake goes in the oven and we realise the recipe needs tweaking, so we tweak, we gather, we sift some more.
The big discovery for me was when I understood everything stemmed from the state of consciousness I operated in. All action stems from this state, all thoughts, all feelings and the only job I had was to choose a different state to dwell in. And that this state has within it all the actions I need to take to experience my desires, and yes, we can’t sit on our btms and expect a lorry load of goodness to show up at our door…although it might happen that way. That’s not our job.
The ingredients for the cake are yours to choose, then we trust that it’s baked just as we requested.
November 18, 2013 @ 11:39 am
Hello Elle! What you say is so very true – it is all entirely a state of consciousness, getting ourselves in to the state of mind which is helpful for our wellbeing and our own progress.
I love your analogy of sifting, because it’s so true that we are now exposed to so many possibilities. And it really has to be a case of sifting through to find the ones which feel best for us at that point in time. What I’ve noticed is that this does not mean that a discarded idea is bad, sometimes it just seems that I’m not yet ready for it.
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January 7, 2014 @ 11:54 am
[…] Perhaps it may be true that a goal often seems, unwavering, fixed (perhaps even unhelpful) and yet simply having a system or a process without a goal, seems akin to travelling down a river, not knowing where it leads. If a baker could simply shove butter, eggs, flour and sugar together without having a cake in mind to make – it’s very unlikely that a cake will result. […]