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  1. Hiten
    February 6, 2014 @ 8:17 pm

    Hi Li-ling,

    It sounds like G has such a healthy and empowering attitude and confidence! This is wonderful.

    As the attitude from the NLP field says, ‘there is no failure, only feedback’. I like to remind myself of this whenever I worry about ‘failing’ at a particular activity.

    Thank you.

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    • Li-ling
      February 7, 2014 @ 4:53 pm

      Hi Hiten,
      I love that ‘no failure, only feedback’. We so often limit ourselves by the perception that to fail will be an awful terrible mistake, so much so that we dare not even try.
      I too am learning that the greatest value is not in the outcome but in the journey. Thank you for stopping by Hiten, much appreciated.

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  2. Vishnu
    February 9, 2014 @ 1:50 am

    Hi Li-ling – thank you for sharing this story of the fearless and confident G 🙂 “Exams are easy” haha yes!!

    I think if most people took this attitude towards fear and failure, they would follow their dreams and live the life that is capable to them. Many times we talk ourselves out of what is possible for us. The best case scenario is we get what we want. The worst case scenario, as Hiten pointed out, is we learn and grow – or get feedback!

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    • Li-ling
      February 10, 2014 @ 1:02 pm

      Hi Vishnu,
      What you say is very true – we talk ourselves out of what is possible, I wonder why? 😉

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    • Chris Bailey
      February 11, 2014 @ 11:50 pm

      Totally agree Vishnu 🙂

      Li-ling, your article reminded me of Ken Robinson’s great TED talk, where he talks about how kids are the most brilliant and creative people in the world until we teach them not to be. Lovely story 🙂

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      • Li-ling
        February 13, 2014 @ 12:17 pm

        Absolutely Chris. I am finding that it is often our own fears that get in the way of ‘allowing’ our children to be the amazing wonderful people that they actually inherently know that they can be.

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      • Li-ling
        February 13, 2014 @ 2:31 pm

        Chris, we so often hand over our fears and limitations from our own experience of the world around us, to our children, and yet if we learn to trust and encourage them we will find that they really are so aware and so knowing of what it is they are here to achieve.

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  3. Sue Neal
    February 11, 2014 @ 5:33 pm

    What an interesting story, Li-ling. Just goes to show how we often wrongly attribute thoughts and feelings to other people, based on our own personal assumptions.

    It’s lovely that the girl in the story had such a positive attitude to her exams – I spent my childhood terrified of failing things, I think due to the way I internalised my father’s expectations of me (I was the “clever” one of the family, always expected to do well, and it was a huge burden). It’s only in late adulthood that I’ve had more courage to have a go at things at which I might fail.

    I love Hiten’s NLP quote about there being no failure, only feedback – I must remember that one 🙂

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    • Li-ling
      February 13, 2014 @ 2:33 pm

      Oh Sue, both a burden and a gift. I know that many of us share similar experiences and yet we have learnt and overcome much. Learning to live life easy and happy is one great step forward – as I know you’re embarking on that journey to greater joy.

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